Communication before, during and after se.x is as important as the se.xual act itself. So how you ask a woman, by words or action, for se.x, what you say and do during se.x and how you react after se.x will mean a lot more than you think.
Just like many men have an ego issue with their penis size and se.xual performance, many women take verbal and non-verbal communication during se.x very serious.
However, if you don’t know what bedroom courtesy in speech means, just try to never say these annoying and disrespectful phrases:
1. “You don’t seem to know anything about se.x” – some people think saying this, or variations of it, is like stating that she is modest. The truth however is that it is derogatory and very annoying. If you notice she doesn’t know a move or cannot do something, respectfully show her how to.
2. “My ex used to like this…” – Really? How much more stupid can one get than to bring in an ex during se.x with a new person? That is automatically saying “my ex is better than you in bed.”
3. “Let’s do it quickly”, “I need to go”, “I’m running late” – even if you have to be somewhere else immediately after se.x, it is rude and insulting to make it obvious. If you are not ready for the se.x, just walk off and leave her be instead of hurrying her. You may be ready but she is NOT.
4. “You never learn…” – what! If she never learns, then you must be a damn terrible teacher. If you have taught her the move well before, then be respectful enough to teach her again of just leave her alone. Instead, frame the criticism in the positive by showing/talking about how it should be done.
5. “Stop acting like a saint” – you don’t have to call her a “dog” just because she refused to do something – i.e. oral se.x. If she doesn’t like it, you either avoid it or convince her gently and maturely.
6. “Your body is restricting me/not allowing my moves” – women are very conscious about how their bodies look so avoid making uncomplimentary statements about it. If she is too fat or too slim, just look for a position that compliments her body instead of slamming it. If you have nothing good to say, SHUT UP!
7. “Se.x with you is boring” – while feedback is important, especially for lovers, it is important to avoid dismissive comments like this. Se.x is usually an output of your input, so focus on putting in more and you’ll get less boring se.x.
Bottom line is to be a gentleman in bed as much as out of it.
Dirty talk is only allowed as long as it is not deliberately derogatory and is not a joke easily understood as such.
~Pulse.ng~
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